I’ve read your things for several years here but now I know you. It worked. These were the important things. I can place you in the array of people that I have known who talked a lot and thought out loud. And I can think about you being unhappy and that there is a less than happy child involved.
Also now I know that I shouldn’t be so reliant on maintaining one name for pets. But that’s ok because we haven’t had and any for some years except the geckos that live in our house (two kinds), guy and gusto. The names just kind of became standardized and work for all of them.
And I’m also getting slowly overwhelmed by the failure to work out reasonable social standards for genders. I thought I was on the right side of that forty years ago but eventually figured out that it is not possible to be on the right side because there are too many sides and all the sides change. So whatever gender you are or want to be is ok. And if your neutral with the options open that’s ok also. I’ll deal with people I like, or with those I need to work with, and ignore those that are assholes. Until they change. I think we just need to stop standardizing the gender thing. And people who try to standardize it arbitrarily are assholes. Done.
That last part didn’t really have anything to do with you but they way you talked about it got me thinking.