I’m appalled. I read the whole thing and have no idea what to say. Part of me became angry at you for actually putting up with everything. That is certainly a bullshit thing to think. That brought on more anger for thinking that you couldn’t have put up with all that just because you say you did. Another part wanted to offer help. The problem is there is no way that I could ignore this. Nor is there anything that I could do as you obviously figured it out.
People fall into situations and then proceed to spend years hitting themselves in the head with a hammer assuming that this will, somehow, fix the situation while things grow incrementally worse.
I guess this got me because I’ve watched my daughters go through this stuff and I couldn’t do anything for them either. You learn quickly if you tell a daughter that the dude is an asshole you simply don’t hear from that daughter for a while. But my daughters finally got things figured out without me.
I guess that’s what makes it hard. They figured it out on their own. What’s a guy supposed to do?